General Posts

Monday July 13, 2009 at 9:12pm
Well it sems I have a right to know where my children stay when they are with X, so I'm going to tell her that before B and G stay with her, I need to know the address of where she lives. I found this out by dropping an email to my solicitor, and she replied within an hour - so nice to get some reassure quickly, rather than having to worry about it. Incidentally, X hasn't got any beds or furniture yet, but we have agreed that the children with be resident with me (atleast thats the legal term ....
Friday July 10, 2009 at 9:34pm
X moved out today. We agreed and disagreed over some things she wanted to take last night, and she moved out everything of hers and what we agreed during the course of today. She had the cheek to ask if I would help her get stuff into her car!  Obviously I said no.. The house is noticably different with less things in it.  She has left most things behind, but daft things like she took half the plates in the kitchen - so even though there are myself, B and G, there aren't quite enoug....
Wednesday July 8, 2009 at 10:09am
I've been to see a local solicitor that deals primarily with divorce and they are based in my town. Essentially, she (the solicitor) said to ignore the threatening tone of the letter I'd received - as it was all meant to intimidate me.  She said to get all the paperwork done in what is now a week, is just a complete joke - so she will write to them informing them of such. Some things I learnt which I wasn't aware of, and may help other people in the same circumstances are: 1. The &q....
Thursday July 2, 2009 at 8:38pm
X has surprised me by not filing for a quickie divorce - for some reason.  "ap uk" did leave a comment on my last post that, and quoting them "women do not leave without someone to go to".  In some ways that would make it easier if that was the case - although my emotions are all over the place at present so who knows how I'd feel. To recap the last few weeks, X has been doing her usual disappearing act and very rarely around.  The children have been....
Sunday June 7, 2009 at 6:52am
I've read, whether rightly or wrongly, that even though parents of children are equal in the eyes of the law, the divorce process usually favours the mother. The prospect of only seeing my children at weekends physically makes me feel sick - to the point of having actually been sick.  I have an appointment with a local solicitor next week to talk it all through... Oh joy! X is still bulldozing ahead.  Shes still in the spare room when shes around.  Shes still carrying on with wo....
Thursday June 4, 2009 at 8:13am
This is all moving too fast..  After over 8 1/2 years of marriage, X is applying for a "quickie divorce" and bulldozing it through.  I really don't feel in control of anything and some friends have said that I need to see a solicitor - which I agree with them on. Reading various sites on the internet, if I'm right, the divorce part is relatively straight forward and is just the legal part of the process - but the financial side of it, especially if children are involved is s....
Sunday May 31, 2009 at 10:38am
I got married 8 1/2 years ago to a girl I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with - I'll call her X going forward as shes determined to be my ex-wife, so X sounds quite fitting.  We have two children aged 4 and 5 - a girl and boy who I'll refer to as G and B. X dropped a bombshell 9 days, 11 hours ago.  Her words will always be etched on my mind and were "I don't want to be married to you any more and I want a divorce". Before the sceptics comment, I can hand o....
Wednesday May 27, 2009 at 1:32pm
We've received a lot of excellent feedback from visitors to this site - making us proud to be able to help out other people who are going through the divorce process. One such visitor, we'll call Simon, has asked to "guest blog" and post his diary of going through a divorce.  Over the coming weeks, he'll be writing from personal experience of going through a divorce, the emotional turmoil, the stresses, the costs and the inevitable outcome.....