This is all moving too fast.. After over 8 1/2 years of marriage, X is applying for a "quickie divorce" and bulldozing it through. I really don't feel in control of anything and some friends have said that I need to see a solicitor - which I agree with them on.
Reading various sites on the internet, if I'm right, the divorce part is relatively straight forward and is just the legal part of the process - but the financial side of it, especially if children are involved is separate and needs specialist advice sought on.
X doesn't seem to have much interest, or said anything about B and G in the future. I'm quite a hands-on Dad and did more than my fair share of nappies, feeding, sick-clearing up, middle of night feeds etc, and I love my children. X on the other hand loves her job and occasional nights away with "work" - or have they been work. I still think shes having an affair.