I got married 8 1/2 years ago to a girl I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with - I'll call her X going forward as shes determined to be my ex-wife, so X sounds quite fitting. We have two children aged 4 and 5 - a girl and boy who I'll refer to as G and B.
X dropped a bombshell 9 days, 11 hours ago. Her words will always be etched on my mind and were "I don't want to be married to you any more and I want a divorce".
Before the sceptics comment, I can hand on heart guarantee that that I have been 100% faithful to X since our first kiss many years ago. I've never had an affair and my family are the most important thing in my life and I would never do anything to jepodise that.
In all the years we've been together as a couple, X has sometimes said that shes "bored" with life, but wanting a divorce is not something to joke about. But unfortunately she is deadly serious.
When she told me, I was being completely gobsmacked and naturally I asked questions. I wanted to know why. I wanted her to talk. But instead she refused to. "I won't change my mind" she said - then stormed off upstairs. She moved all her clothes and personal items into the spare room and our marital bedroom only has my things in it.
In the last 9 days, shes done everything she can to avoid being at home with myself, G and B. When Seeing them so happy and knowing that my marriage is breaking down is heart breaking and it literally brings me to tears. I love my children, and I will do everything to keep them.
The internet is a great tool for finding information, or answers to questions. I actually came across this site when trying to find out more.
I think X is having an affair too as last weekend, she left on Friday morning and didn't come back until Monday night. Not a word of "I'll be away", just disappeared completely. I did ask her on the Monday night about whether she was having an affair, and she said no. I don't believe her as my trust in her has diminished completely.
Children are quite perceptive, despite B and G being only 4 and 5. They ask where "mummy" is and even why shes not sleeping in the same bed as "daddy". What do you say to children?